Relationships: Envy and Jealousy

 

 

Jealousy is being predisposed to suspect rivalry or unfaithfulness; hostile toward a rival or one believed to enjoy an advantage. Envy is the painful or resentful awareness of an advantage enjoyed by another joined with a desire to possess the same advantage.

                                                                                      Webster’s Dictionary

 

Jealousy and envy is resenting God’s goodness in my neighbor’s life and ignoring His goodness in my own life.

 

 

What can envy and jealousy do to me?

 

·        You become conflicted.

 “You are jealous for what others have, and you can’t possess it, so you fight and quarrel to take it away from them.”  James 4:2 (NLT)

 

·        You become discontented.

“A tranquil heart makes for a healthy body, but jealousy is like bone cancer.” 

Pr. 14:30 (NCV)

 

·        You become vulnerable.

“Where jealousy and selfishness are, there will be confusion and every kind of evil.”   James 3:16 (NCV)

 

 

What is the solution?

 

 

1.  Remember who made you.

 

       You (God) created every part of me; you put me together in my mother’s womb … You saw me before I was born and scheduled every day of my life before I began to breathe.” 

Ps. 139:13+15 (GN)

 

 

2.  Stop comparing yourself.

 

       “Each one should test his own actions.  Then he can take pride in himself, without comparing himself to somebody else.”  Gal. 6:4 (NIV)

 

 

3.  Be a thankful person.

 

       “Give thanks in all circumstances…” 1 Th. 5:18 (NIV)

 

       “It is better to be satisfied with what you have than to be always wanting something else.”  Eccl. 6:9 (GN)

 

 

4.  Stay rooted in love.

 

       “You being rooted and grounded in love, may be able to comprehend with all the saints what is the width and length and depth and height- tp know the love of Christ which passes knowledge; that you may be filled with all the fullness of God. Ephesians 3:17-19

 

      ‘Love does not envy’.  1 Corinthians 13:4

 

 

Additional Reading:

Envy: The Enemy Within

Author: Bob Sorge

Publisher: Regal Books ISBN: 0-8307-3122-9

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